Being single is, to some, a burden that they cannot get rid of, but I personally believe that to be single is to be free. There are so many things you can do when you have no one else to to think about. Sure, seeing couples being all cute and happy can make us want to find a significant other, but we can achieve just as much happiness if not more as we enjoy our single lives to the fullest. This month, you are your own bae, so here’s a bunch of things you can do to forget about your relationship status.
Take some Days Off and Travel
Life can be hectic for all of us, so people in relationships tend to spend their days off bonding with their significant others. Being single allows you to take that time to travel. You don’t even have to go out of the country. I’m sure there are many beautiful places in your country that you just haven’t heard about yet. Think about all those instagram-worthy photoshoot prospects you’re missing out on! If traveling is too stressful (and I can totally relate), how does a shopping day sound?
Read Something You Wouldn’t Normally Read
Yes, yes, I know. Romance is sooo in, but there are so many amazing books you could be reading if you dropped that mushy romance novel. I, myself, enjoy the occasional YA romance, but reading is an experience. Do you really want to read the same plot line written with slight differences 15 times? Get out there and read books you never would have. How about Rupi Kaur’s Milk and Honey? Haruki Murakami’s Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki? Kathryn Stockett’s The Help? There are loads of fantastic books just waiting to be read, and when you’re not getting constant text messages from your babe, you can have the peace and quiet to actually read.
Drown Yourself in a Romantic K-Drama
I am a master of this particular task. In fact, I live this everyday. I don’t know who dragged me into this inescapable trap, but I’m not complaining! You don’t need your own love life when you can watch other people be cute together. Some of my personal favorites: W: Two Worlds, Hwarang: The Beginning, and the cutest one ever: Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok Joo. There’s no guilt in eating a tub of ice cream while binge-watching dramas. It’s just self-love. ❤
Schedule a Coffee Date with Your Squad
Have I mentioned I LOVE cafes? I dislike coffee (gasp how dare I), but cafes are the best things in the world. I live near a famous food street so my life is practically perfect, and themed cafes are really common, particularly in Asia. The best feeling in the world is bringing a couple of close friends to your favorite cafe and staying there for hours just eating cake, drinking coffee (well, tea for me), and talking about life. I often go to Cafe I’m Here even though the food isn’t spectacular and the location is rather hidden and there’s no wifi because the set-up of the cafe is honestly the best thing ever. They have sort of like mini rooms with bean bags, a second level, normal chairs, desks for when you want to study… It’s amazing. It honestly feels like home, and the employees are all kind and enthusiastic. Plus their caramel bread is to die for! (Please excuse the mini review; I got excited.)
Learn Something New
There are probably loads of things you want to try. Maybe you’re interested in stuff like photography, calligraphy, art, music, or writing. Or maybe you want to start your own blog, learn a language, learn to juggle, take up a sport, start cooking, or make an online business. No matter what, I’m sure you have your own interests. With all this time for yourself, you’re completely free to explore the things you want to do and no one can stop you.
Develop Your Own Style
To a certain extent, who you are translates to how you look on the outside. It’s why it’s so important to figure out what your style really is through figuring out who you really are. We’re easily influenced by the way other people look, what people say about how we look, and what we are exposed to, and having a partner means that there is one more person’s opinion that you really care about. Even if you say it doesn’t affect you, there will definitely be that feeling of wanting your partner to like what you like or your style. You might not even notice it, but you could be making choices that you know they’d like better, and that kind of thing really stops you from looking the way you want to look. When you’re single, explore your style. When you like how you look, you’ll also feel a lot more comfortable and happy with yourself
Take Care of a Pet
Who will love you unconditionally? Who will be there even on your sick days? Who will always be up to cuddle? Who will believe in you no matter what and stand up for you when you need them? Your pet, of course. It’s a great responsibility to get a pet of your own, but nothing will ever replace the love you have for each other.
Try New Things
When in relationships, you might find yourself stuck doing the same things and going to the same places. When you’re single, you can always go ahead and try something without any judgment or worries of taking time away from someone. The world is so open to you, and there’s no reason to stop yourself from experiencing new things everyday.
Have a New Crush Everyday
Sometimes, we have crushes that we don’t really want to turn into relationships. Just because you like someone, and their smile makes your heart stop for a moment, and when they’re near you, you can’t think straight, doesn’t mean that when the opportunity arises, you’d actually want to date them. The truth is it’s fun to have a crush, and it’s perfectly okay to find new ones all the time. I don’t really mean a new one everyday, but having minor crushes are fun! Just make sure that you’re not hurting anyone’s feelings while you’re gushing to your friends about how cute they are.
At the end of the day, the most important thing is just to enjoy. The same goes for people in relationships. You don’t have to go out of your way to keep finding new things and doing new things that seem exciting. Even if you’re stressed af, and nothing seems to be going right, just enjoy your free time, your friendships, and your family. Eat things that make you feel good, and do things that make you feel proud of yourself. Enjoy what you’re doing, whatever that may be, and remember to be positive because you’re at a much better place in life than you think.